2 Major Reasons Why Couples Fight Over Money
Either there is too much or too little. That’s it…simple. It is quite fascinating how everything revolves around these two scenarios. We can argue from whatever angle we like but all boils down to these two facts. Let’s look at some examples of how this comes about.
When There’s Too Much Money
When there is too much money flowing in the home, people tend to be relaxed, throw caution to the wind and splash it around. Now if your partneris easy with money while you are miserly or the other way round, then you have a problem. People who are miserly tend to hold onto money, they are too attached and struggle to let go while those who are generous would like to splash it around. When such two people are coupled, there are grounds for fighting and arguments, accusations and counter accusations.
Even if there is more than enough money, they still fight!
There is more than enough but the partners just don’t see eye to eye. One wants to enjoy all the frills that come with the money such as holidays, luxury cars, nice clothes etc. but risks clashing with the partner who likes to trace where every penny has gone to. Some people shun the limelight and would rather lead a private life, not showing off or flaunting their wealth. I have read so many stories of people who lived like paupers and yet they had lots of money or gold and silver stashed somewhere. Others ended up leaving their wealth to charities or to their pets yet they never enjoyed the wealth when they were alive.
It is difficult for the carefree partner as they have to justify every expense leading to resentment and secret ending. Some people keep secret bank accounts from their partners so they can fund their interests easily
without risking interrogation and accusations. Then there is the case of men who when they have too much money end up with a string of concubines or “small houses” a colloquial reference in some circles. This causes strife in the home as interests become diverse and mismatched and lead to constant fighting over small issues while the main culprit remains too much money.
Too little money in the home causes sleepless nights with arguments over what to prioritize. If only one of the partners is the breadwinner, they might feel justified in wanting to have the final say. The situation becomes worse if the wife is the breadwinner as already men do not like to feel inferior or challenged by their female counterparts. Too little money in the home causes a variety of arguments as any topic can easily divert and end
up being about money. The husband might accuse the wife of wasting his money on non- essential items and on the other hand the wife might feel like the husband is not providing enough for the home or spending on entertainment outside the home. A lot of animosity between couples can be traced back to money, from decisions on where to live, how many children to have, what diet or entertainment to have and even what schools the children should go to.
What can you do about this?
Next time you have an argument with your partner, examine it carefully to see if it’s not rooted in either too much money or too little. If it is due to too little, then it is time to look at ways to make extra cash. Visit any of the videos on this page for
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Mosline Farawu is a creative writer who likes to share her thoughts and observations . It is my hope that many will find healing through such writings.